Anyone who is married, or has ever lived with a partner, knows that even the smallest thing can escalate into the biggest row.
It might be that your partner puts their dirty washing next to the washing basket, instead of in it. Or, like in this couple’s case, they could single-handedly eat enough to feed a large family, not leaving a scrap for anyone else.
While it might not seem like the biggest deal to everyone, one woman is absolutely at the end of her tether with her food-inhaling husband, whose greed for food knows no bounds, and it’s starting to really affect their relationship.
The issue, according to the woman, stems all the way back to their childhoods, as they were raised under a completely different set of rules regarding whether it’s okay to finish the last of the food.
“I was raised in a house where it was not ok to be a glutton. I had to ask if I wanted to finish something off, such as milk or snacks, to make sure no one else wanted any,” she explained on Reddit’s Am I The A**hole forum.
“It was beat into my head that I had to have manners and be considerate of others and I grew up always trying to be a halfway decent human.”
Her husband, on the other hand, was raised in a home where he was allowed to eat whatever he wanted, and lives by the motto that “food is meant to be eaten, not saved.”
“This difference in our upbringings has caused massive fights because I will cook a huge meal for us and get maybe a small helping and then he will literally eat every last bit of what is left, never once asking if I wanted some of the leftovers,” she continued.
“In addition when I go shopping and buy things like juice, crackers, snacks he will devour them in the span of a day and a half, leaving none for me.”
The woman says she has tried to tell her husband that it is “ridiculously rude” to eat everything without giving her the courtesy of checking if she wants some, and that it is “absolutely unacceptable” to eat all the groceries the second she brings them home from the supermarket.
“He says that I have food issues and that I can just buy more. Yeah I can, but that is not the point. I do all the shopping and all the cooking. He does clean up, but I rarely get to even taste what I cook if I don’t eat it the second it is made,” she added.
“I told him he has zero consideration and that it is rude not to think of others. He says he was brought up in a house where he never had to ‘ask permission to eat’ and that he wasn’t going to do that.”
After admitting that she and her husband find themselves constantly going back and forth about how she thinks he’s rude and he thinks she has food issues, she turned to the people of Reddit to question who is in the right over the problem.
“Not only are you not getting through to him, he’s not even trying to understand where you’re coming from,” one Reddit user said. “He doesn’t even acknowledge that this is an issue, so just stop buying him food, or hide it, and see if he stops and takes a minute to acknowledge your point then.”
Another agreed: “Your husband is being selfish and rude. Go on strike; cook and shop for yourself only, and let him do the same for himself to his heart’s content. Put your stuff in locked containers in the fridge/pantry.”
Meanwhile, other couples who had gone through similar experiences suggested she purchase a lock fridge, so she can put her own portions in there, away from her hungry husband. Others suggested they simply switch responsibilities, and that the husband should shop and cook to see how frustrating it is.